Have you ever fallen in love and the world around you says, no, it’s not right, don’t do that? Well, that brief moment where you feel that crazy love, regardless if it wasn’t forever, was there, and it felt good. Wasn’t it worth it? Did you know feeling in love and not being in love reaps the same joy. So, yes it’s worth it.
Like reading a book and living the romance through pages. Experiencing love through imaginary thought is healthy and effects you positively… So is it worth it to read? Yes, because love is there even when it’s really not.
Have you ever hated someone, but when you lay your head on the pillow and their memory cuddly and warm stirred you. You want to forgive and scream into the night that you loved loving them? That the fun moments were amazing. Well, that moment to felt that memory was worth it too. Fleeting or not, love is fun and reliving it reminds you that “this” can happen again but even better.
It’s how you end a fleeting love that messes the world up. That leave you feeling you did wrong or were wronged. We are taught that hanging on to the lovely side of that person who hurt us makes us losers, but it doesn’t. It means we loved, and that is awesome.
Have you ever thought that vulnerability is your downfall? No, no, you must be safe, don’t let anyone in who isn’t approved, stamped, checked, listed, registered, or proven that they will ever hurt you. No one will have any part of your heart, commitment, or attention until you are sure. You’re not in that pool (love) of warm water having fun. You’re pretending to be resistant. Well, is it worth it? Love is there, whether you admit it or not. Walls don’t keep love out. They keep progress out. But the love is there even when you think it’s not, and is it really worth it never touching the Holy Grail?
IT’S HOW YOU END LOVE NOT THAT YOU LOVED
It means that all the rules around love are set up like some type of insurance policy that protects us from being hurt when all along the problem is not being hurt; it’s how we handle the hurt. It’s how we allow those fleeting moments, those mistakes, and those short-lived feelings to effect us.
Psychology research goes both ways with the, “It is better to have loved and lost than never loved at all.” Some are worse off when they jump in and end up losing that relationships. Other are worse off when they never jump in. But, is it possible that what really messes you up is how you handle what doesn’t work, what fails, what hurts, what ended, and so on. Can anyone who has ever truly loved say with an honest heart that it’s better to never have loved? I don’t think so. The experience of love is like nothin in our whole existence.
So, if your heart hurts and your life is ruined after love it’s not the love, it’s fear, contempt, ego, and all kinds of reasons that leave us empty. Love isn’t the enemy we are.
GRATITUDE IS THE ANSWER?
Gratitude for every moment that love made you smile. For every memory that warmed you. For everything that gave you any part of happiness. Walk away from that person who’s not right for you, but love the love that was there even in the smallest way and you are the lucky one who can love again, feel, give, and keep the buzz of love flowing through you. GRATITUDE IS THE WAY OF NATURAL LIFE.
Love glides through our lives and offers rides. Sometimes they last for five minutes and other times a lifetime. It might be worth it to let love take you for that ride regardless of how long because there is always another ride if you’re not afraid to get on and off the train, but if you never jump on, well, my friend, I think you know what it means.
- Psychology Today, How Gratitude Leads to a Happier Life